Attachment Rupture

Helping Baby Sleep (See Palladio end of term report 12/22/10),
p. 84
re  babies' brains "left swimmining in stress hormones" and don't recieve the reinforcement of re-attunement with parents during and following a stressful experience in the new world they have entered.

Goldi noted during Saturday's family dinner at the Boathouse: "We shouldn't be surprised that parents feel tremendous anxiety at the start of the military nature of csellp training...for heaven's sake our natural compulsion biologically speaking is to protect andcomfort our offspring...not separate from them and allow themselves to wail themselves into a toxic chemical stupor."

...Hurray, Goldi! You never mince words. "From God's mouth to Goldi's ears..."  Ora proclaimed into the microphone over waves of applause.

Parents seeking peace of mind? Delve into Natural and Logical Consequences ...it will be worth your time!

Natural and logical consequences date back to Haim Ginott in the sixties

...his wisdom is shared from decades of studying children's thinking and behaving.  Parents and teachers seeking need a basic, simple, and effective principle for developing children's capacity to make informed choices habitually.  Natural and logical consequences evokes a child's ability to think and choose.

Haim Ginott is a classic in the field of child psychology.  His guidance flows from what is currently today best practices from wide knowledge bases: child development, attachment theory, self-efficacy, and neuropsychology.  The principle of natural and logical consequences operates in the home and classroom as simply and effectivly as that basic invention, the wheel!

The wheel works across time, because it fits reality. It's organic, it flows from reality. The same is true of  natural consequences, which evolve into use of logical consequences. Better than coddling, excusing, overlooking, or pretending with kids. "Reality therapy" is what Haim Ginott called this application of his life's work with kids. He encouraged parents and teachers to use reality therapy with kids at home and in school. If we all followed his advice consistently, we might have been able to purchase condos on the moon by now!

Just the same, as I sift through the new books for those who develop youth, I am glad to see some authors returning to the classics.  And newbies to parenting and teaching are finding that too many babies were tossed out with the bathwater. Strategies, based on principles that form from solid knowledge of child development  work here and now because they make sense...did then, do now! 

Take a look at Rules in School. Encourage parents to visit the Global Parent Academy blogspot to learn how to practice these tried and true strategies at home!

Goldi & Ora: Daily Now! ...The Art and Science of Parenting

Tune into Internet radio programming, Daily Now!,  6:30-7 a.m. Monday through Friday.  CEU credits are available and packets can be downloaded from Daily Now! Parents collaborating receive additional credit.
Goldi & Ora's launch topic?  Peaceful Parents - Block by Block ....
How Parents Build Peace of Mind @ Home, around Home, and through Home's work

Palladio scholar, Nadja Primbatova, has defined her Contribution of Great Merit in the field of journalism and newscasting!  Nadja will serve the good of her country and New York City through hosting and broadcasting our esteemed Emeritus Professors ...Goldi & Ora, live now from Tillson, through each morning's edition of The Art and Science of Parenting.

Preparations have been underway since Ms. Primbatova returned in June from her native Kazakhstan. 

Helping Kids Stay with It

When a series of chores or tasks needs completion, making a numbered list facilitates action because

1. we can read what needs to be accomplished in order to alot the time needed
2. a list let's us know what is expected from start to finish ... so we can ask clarifying questions before we  even begin
3. a list lets us know what is expected from start to finish ... so our mind can begin rehearsing each step and linking them one after the other in our minds
4. a list let's us know what is expected from start to finish ... so we can predict when we will be done (and begin already to relish that experience of completion)! 
5. a list becomes our anchor (the place we come back to after we complete each step) ...so we don't need to hold all the items in our mind (which interfers with being fully present during a task)
6. if we get distracted at any point, and go off-task, we have a place to come home to...Our List!
7. after each completion, we can enjoy highlighting, checking, or crossing it off ... indicating accomplishment. This builds awareness of self-efficacy!
8. after each completion: highlighing, checking, or crossing it off -can build to our sense of order
9. order and accomplishment enhances our self trust 
10.  self trust builds self-esteem  ... leading us to set realistic goals